Life Planning · The Street

Your FIRST MONEY meeting

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This is advice “for the rest of your life” – ah yes…that part…the part after your wedding.  And as important as your wedding is (or was), this topic is so much more critical to your long term happiness.  I promise, stick with me through my “Money Meetings” blog posts and you will:

  • create a basic money management system
  • create & implement a realistic budget, and
  • set some longer term goals along with a plan to fund them.

Most of what’s written for recently engaged and newlywed couples is so generic and overly-simplified that you’ll forget about it the moment you are done reading.  Not mine – I suggest specific action steps to get you started. And, though obviously not the only way to approach these financial challenges, I provide what I believe to be “a good way”, and a proven way.  Also, everyone’s personal situation is unique, and your specifics are obviously not a part of this “one-way” communication. So, take what you need, modify if you want, but DO IT.

As a Registered Life Planner, I’ve had an opportunity to work with many couples entering, modifying and exiting relationships of varying types – and never has a person said that the time spent discussing shared and individual goals, finances and budgets was not time well spent.

STEP ONE:  Please forward this or print it out and hand it to your significant other as a way of introducing the meeting and making sure you both start with a shared understanding.  You must both be open to the idea of discussing your financial future.  If you can not agree to discuss, I suggest hiring a counselor / CFP / Registered Life Planner to provide guidance to get you started.

And no, it is not “too late” if you have been living together for awhile already, or if you married one or more years ago and are now just getting around to this.  Now is always a good time. 

STEP TWO:   Agree on a specific day/time/location to discuss your finances for one hour.

This can be over a glass (bottle) of wine, coffee, tea — probably on a weekend, with privacy, and few distractions [cell phones and pets are uninvited].  Planning to discuss  while laying in bed just before going to sleep is bad.  Why an hour?  Having a specific amount of time will keep the meeting from creating too much anxiety and will, hopefully, keep you more-or-less on task.

STEP THREE:  You are going to write some stuff down — you need a dedicated resource to document these meetings.  Flip a coin for who takes notes first [there are 6 meetings, so you’ll get equal turns].  You are writing down, at a minimum:  date & time of meeting, agreements reached, commitments made (to each other and to yourselves), unanswered questions to research, to-do’s for next meeting & date and time of next meeting.  Yes, this is old school – I am requesting a college ruled, bound binder, not your phone’s note taking app.  No need to go get a “budget binder” or some overly-structured pre-formatted “system”.  You can do that later if you decide together that you want one.

The goal of meeting #1:  Agree on the framework you will use to manage your finances as a couple for the next year.  

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Why a year?  First, the topic of money may be emotionally charged for one or the both of you, and agreeing on an open ended commitment to an arrangement that may be both new, and a bit unnerving, makes it less likely you will reach agreement.  Keeping the door open to change by placing a one-year deadline on this will help.  And it is a good pattern to begin now regardless — by that I mean having regularly scheduled times to discuss & modify family “stuff” like money, budgets & long term goals that otherwise often don’t ever get discussed.  [Annual financial reviews are a great idea, and regular mini-meetings can help to course-correct before issues get too big, but I will address in meeting 6.]

I also am providing three basic “framework” options from which you will choose (though there are many variations that could work just fine):

Option A.  “Individual Account Option”  You each maintain separate checking/savings accounts into which paychecks are deposited.  You each fund a “joint account” with a specific amount on a recurring basis to pay “joint” expenses, paying individual expenses from your individual accounts

Option B.  “Joint Account Option”  You create joint checking & savings accounts into which all paychecks are deposited.  All expenses are paid from these accounts.

Option C.  “Hybrid Account Option”  You create joint checking & savings accounts into which all paychecks are deposited.  Joint expenses are paid from this account, as well as individual “allowances” you each receive from which you pay individual expenses and personal expenditures of your choosing.

Now notice – you are not discussing individual expense items right now – that’s a future meeting.  Your goal is to agree on and create just the framework that you both will use, for the next year, for transactingmonitoring and reviewing family income and expenses.

Now that you know the primary goal of this first meeting, here are important details:

Start your meeting by expressing to each other:

1.  your biggest fears about money;

2.  your aspirations for you as a couple regarding financial goals – 5 to 10 years out;

3.  what you believe you do well when it comes to managing money;

4.  what is the first weakness/past mistake that comes to mind when it comes to money and budgets.

This may or may not provide some previously unknown information, but it is intended to help you focus your thoughts and connect with each other.  There is no one “in charge” of this process – it is a shared responsibility at this point.  Listen with an intent to understand, not to reply, and no interrupting.

Then outline together what is happening with your cash now right now.  Just a quick summary of what happens currently with the money coming into the “family unit” [paychecks] & how bills are paid — both bills that may have both of your names on them as well as bills that have only one name on them — ALL bills. This is to make sure you both have the same mental picture of the “flow of things”.  Discuss “the why” of this arrangement, and your individual thoughts on how it is working and what could be done to improve this. This might provide some insight into why you each prefer one of the three checking account options over the other two, and may help create a shared vision as a couple.

Now you may (happily) find that you can easily agree on option A, B, or C, but often there will be some disagreement, particularly if talking about money is new to one or both of you or if there is a large difference in individual incomes and/or expenses (student loans, health related expenses, extended family obligations).

NOTE:  If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable during this — or any — money meeting:  Immediately announce that you are feeling this way & remind each other that neither of you [ and none of us – N O N E ! ]  is without issues when it comes to money.  {see points #1 & 4 above} Whether difficult or not, it is beyond important to know each other’s financial situation and pain-points when it comes to money.  Just get your “stuff” on the table – knowing it will be received with kindness and handled with care.

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That is it for meeting #1!  Next up – figuring out a budget.  Don’t let this meeting end without making sure you’ve agreed on what needs to be done next — your personal action steps.  New accounts need to be opened? Names added to existing ones? New checks ordered/debit cards requested (or destroyed!).  What information do you each need to bring to the next [budget] meeting?  And just when is the next meeting anyway?  And since it is all written down in your Money Meetings Binder, you both know just where to look if you forget… .

And remember – the goal of marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.

Questions or comments, please send them to me at derek@tsfavors.com.

 

How to's · The Street · Wedding Planning Essentials · Weddings & Receptions

3 Tips for selecting favors your guests will take home.

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Classic Baby Blue Gumball Dispenser | Taylor Street Favors

There are way too many party favors.  [We feel your pain every day]. Determining good value for the money is difficult, and even some of the better known industry names have wide variances in the quality of their products (we will not mention names).  And while some couples choose to go DIY, skill levels vary (!) and not everyone has the time or desire.

If you don’t want to make your wedding favors, we at Taylor Street want you know it is absolutely possible for you to purchase interesting or fun, well made, wedding favors.


Here are 3 tips to help make your favor selection process a success.

Tip #1:  Ask yourself the right question

Don’t start your favor search with the question: What gift would my guests be so impressed with / like enough to want to take home?

The mindset behind this question — that you must thrill your guests — is guaranteed to frustrate your efforts because:

1. you will never please everyone, and

2. you are allowing your decision to be dictated by guest preferences you can not influence and can not possibly guess correctly.

Better question:  What small gift/memento would I enjoy giving to my guests — a gift to thank them for coming that might remind them of my wedding day or make them laugh, and that I can afford — without stressing me/us out more than we already are?

Or turn it around — what small gift would I enjoy receiving if I were attending my own wedding?

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Tip #2:  Incorporate your Theme…

Since most guest favors are placed on individual tables or displayed on a reception table, incorporating your theme into the favor can help you narrow your focus.   One of the simplest, and often more successful, ways to to do this is with color, and/or texture.  Every wedding or celebration has one or a few predominant recurring colors or textures.  Use something you’ve already decided on as your inspiration, and you will have streamlined your decision making process.

Tip #3:  …But don’t replicate your entire theme.

Take elements from your theme and deconstruct them.  Do not recreate your entire event theme in miniature with your favor, but rather, take just one part of it.  If your wedding reception theme is the Great Gatsby roaring twenties – repeat a deco print or black and gold color combination with your favor or tag.

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Gatsby Matte White Chair Favor Box | Taylor Street Favors

…and a warning about Pinterest. It is invaluable, but it can overwhelm — too many ideas will have you second guessing yourself in no time.  Your objective is not to make your gift or favor “pin” worthy.  When you go to Pinterest – and you know you will – first set a goal and a time limit.  Get in, get out.

Your favor lets your guests know how much you appreciate them making time to celebrate with you.  It does not have to be a lasting souvenir, and it does not have to be handmade to be appreciated.  Keep it sincere, affordable – and have some fun.

Wedding Planning Essentials

What’s In (and What’s Out) when it comes to Working with Wedding Professionals

 

David and I do not believe that you need to have any particular thing / ritual / color or song for your wedding.  We do believe that whatever you do decide to include and however you decide to express yourselves through your wedding and reception, you ought to be able to do it with class, with style, with confidence and within budget!  Your wedding day ought to be FUN!  Everyone you hire should be focused on making your wedding day uniquely yours & the best day it can be.

I get upset when I come across wedding industry pros who willingly take advantage of a newly engaged couple’s lack of experience in planning a wedding to push their own agenda. A recent article written for a well-known publication provided wedding style comments from various wedding professionals, dismissing some wedding trends and elevating others.  It pushed me to think about how we each can identify & hire passionate, competent, and trustworthy wedding pros.  And in the spirit of the article that drove my motivation to write this, I’ve used their same “what’s out” and “what’s in” approach.

What’s OUT:   Wedding professionals who sermonize about “tired” trends — to be swept away with last year’s brides and grooms — in order to make way for a fresh crop of this year’s recruits who arrive flush with cash.  These pros take advantage of a couple’s inexperience and some insecurity, and sell “the latest trends” because “on-trend” drives compliments and new business – for them.

What’s IN:  Wedding professionals who listen to their clients, provide guidance and advice without preaching, and believe that earning their client’s trust by putting the couple’s interest & vision first is their priority.  These pros are both confident and modest.

What does “a trending wedding professional” look like in practice?  Here’s my list of the top 10 characteristics in trending wedding pros you absolutely will love working with…


TOP 10 Wedding Pro Characteristics

10.  Pros are careful to not take more clients than they can serve confidently, providing their highest level of service to every couple;

9.  Pros NEVER assume they know “what is best” for a particular couple – they listen more than they talk;

8.  Pros treat all couples, gay and straight, with equal respect — and back up “their talk” with gender neutral sales materials and contracts;

7.  Pros do not gossip;

6.  Pros are happy to share their success;

5.  Pros never allow anyone to feel as though they just asked a stupid question;

4.  Pros have no fear of having you shop around;

3.  Pros sometimes say no, knowing that they are not the best fit for every couple;

2.  Pros admit that sometimes they don’t have all the answers, but will always go find the answer if they don’t know.  Eagerness to continue learning is key;

1.  Pros still have A BLAST doing what they are doing – and it shows.

That’s how you’ll spot a real wedding professional.

Gratitude for Beginners · LGBTQ · The Street

Why We Love June (and you should, too!)

It’s our wedding anniversary month (!),

It’s Father’s Day & I have two amazing sons (!!),  and…


…it’s Pride month!   Happy Pride!


 

Plenty to celebrate, and since Taylor Street is all about celebrating, we love June!

There is a common thread to these celebrations, and to all celebrations — and that is the sense of community each promotes.   There is a sense of belonging and acceptance — and love — that is created when you and I take time to honor tradition, our families, our respect for one-another.  And while modern families are increasingly diverse, at their core they remain much the same…

 

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So we are going to share stories of people and their celebrations — of all types — this next year.  Why?  We will support the sense of community, celebrate its members, and strengthen our collective bond.  Because, as Lin -Manuel Miranda said in his amazing acceptance speech, “Love is love”, nothing here is promised – not one day.

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#loveislove #NoH8 #lovewins #LGBTPride #Pride

 

 

The Street

“A heart is not judged by how much you love, but by how much you are loved by others.” -The Wizard of Oz –

Awwwh – always have loved that quote!  To celebrate Father’s Day, we have pulled together a few gift ideas for you.  Some are DIY, some are more affordable than others, and a few are available personalized.  We carry a number of these, and I’ve provided links to those we don’t.  Gift, card, or hug (or all three!) – go spread some love this Father’s Day.

FATHER’S DAY PICNIC

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$ – up to you  Pack a picnic lunch using whatever you have at home, include a frisbee or a football, and head out to one of Dad’s favorite locations — or maybe it’s just into the back yard!

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$21.60   Do you know Dad’s favorite super hero?  We’ve got an awesome selection so dad can be even more super than he already is…

DARTH VADER & SON 

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$9-hardcover, $2 – Kindle   My favorite part of this re-imagining of the Dark Lord as involved parent – Take your child to work day…on the Death Star.  Available on Amazon here.  Books that are fun for both kids and adults are hard to find…Jeffrey Brown did it with this.

PERSONALIZED PHOTO KEEPSAKE BOX

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$27.00   This keepsake box lid holds a 3 X 5 photo and purchase includes engraving. Keeps treasures safe & sound.

WALL MOUNT BOTTLE OPENER 

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$29.95   Useful, well-made, and a great addition to basement pub.

FAMILY PORTRAIT

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$ – varies  I found this project by Alexandra Hedin on Design Sponge.  It is amazing.  We are going to try this at our home, following the directions she has provided here.  I will take some pictures as we go and show you the end product.

Wishing all the dads a Happy Father’s Day!

 

Wedding Planning Essentials · Weddings & Receptions

The “I Do Crew” …for those couples doing things a bit differently… .

Many newly engaged couples, gay and straight, are involving friends and family members in their weddings in more creative and personal ways, redefining traditional gender-based bridesmaids & groomsmen roles.


[And really, why can’t brides and grooms have their BFF’s stand with them at the alter regardless of gender?]


Increasingly, today’s modern couples — whether two brides, two grooms or a bride and groom — are choosing to co-create their wedding ceremony from the ground up, mixing cultural and religious traditions with unique elements, and creating new terminology to fit.

Whatever your reason – here are a few examples of interesting and modern takes on wedding rituals, and some fun alternative names for your wedding party too.

Wedding colors:  Couples are managing the all-to-familiar bridesmaid matching outfit and coordinating groomsmen tradition with a much lighter touch.  Couples are selecting a color (or two) and inviting a close circle of friends and family to wear the color(s). Sometimes instructions include a particular article of clothing (bow tie / socks / shirt or blouse color) and sometimes the request is simply to include that color in whatever outfit is chosen. Not only are couples able to involve more people than they might if the wedding color was limited to the more traditional gang up front, it looks awesome when it comes time for pictures.  David and I went this route, but in hindsight didn’t take the idea far enough.  We now wish we would have had his mom and my dad wear some “poppy orange” too [really – see picture!].

Non-traditional processional – rather than the 2X2, invite your closest friends, and wedding party participants to walk down the aisle at the start of your ceremony with their respective significant others and then sit in reserved rows at the front. This eliminates the need to have everyone pair up nicely…and means you can forget about requiring an equal number of attendants for each “side of the aisle”. Isn’t it more natural and enjoyable if a family with children move as a clump, or if you have a friend who is happily single, stride down your aisle individually?

Combined bridesmaid-groomsmen party – Why not!  Especially if you each already have both men and women as attendants, why not have a co-ed party involving both groups.  Not only do these people then have more of a chance to get to know each other, you can have some fun with your best friends while getting to know your future spouse’s best friends – win/win.

And now, a few alternative terms that are gender neutral and more encompassing too. 

The safe, tried-and-true choice:  “attendants” or “entourage”

Lighthearted:   team [fill in the name of groom(s) or bride(s)];

And these too:  party people, wedding squad, bridal brigade paired with groom squad.

idocrewMy personal favorite is the “I Do Crew” .  It’s catchy, gender neutral, and – for me – a little bit sentimental.

…and it makes a great hashtag.   #idocrew

DIY · How to's

Assembling a Mini-cube Favor Box

You’ve got this!  A few simple steps and your mini-cube favor boxes will be ready for you to fill.  If you ordered lots of these, stop reading and go find a friend or two to do this with you before continuing.  You do not need glue, tape or scissors.  You do need to take your time and follow these instructions carefully for the first few boxes.  Once you’ve got a few done you will be able to adjust these instructions to your abilities – including any perfectionistic tendencies you may have…like me.  Send us a picture when you’re done!  And thank you Event Blossom for these images.  David and I work with many wedding favor wholesalers and Event Blossom’s attitude is reliably helpful and reasonable.  We believe strongly that attitude is important.  It’s a feeling — an approach — and we know our attitude influences everything from your satisfaction with Taylor Street to your box building success.  So are clear instructions…

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Begin with the end in mind – so now that you know you have a two piece box to create…let’s build the top first.  And no – do not skip over the pre-folding step.  It helps make the finished box much more square if you take the time to pre-fold creases.  That said — you also don’t want to go over the creases too heavily as it will damage the glossy finish on the paper. 1025HowTo1

Last steps for the top…

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Now for the box itself…

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Do these next steps in order – the big tab must be last to be folded down…

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Don’t forget to send us that image – info@tsfavors.com.

Gratitude for Beginners · The Street

A Little Inspiration Goes A Long Way

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I haven’t written a post in awhile  — since November 8 I haven’t felt inspired, honestly — not an okay space to set up shop and wallow in for long.  So, just in case you too find yourself motivation-challenged, I’ve linked to three recent posts from a few of my favorite sources that are helping me to get up and go — to work.

Parisian Walkways:  Passage du Grand-Cerf, by Jeffrey T Iverson

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I love reading this online magazine.  I mean – it’s Paris!  But more than the city itself, this article’s inspiration comes from the small shop owners, who have taken a chance, focused on their trade, and believe in the value of a well-made item.  These artisans take pride in their work and the master-craft traditions they preserve. Many of them also set up shop originally when this passage was a neglected eye-sore and stuck with it.  These stories helped to reenergize my passion for Taylor Street Favors, our wedding favors and gift business, whose inclusive message may become less accepted, making it ever more important for us to stick with it and promote.  

 

 What I’ve Learned In 38 Years Of Surrounding Myself With Confident People

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This inspiring article, from Fast Company contributor, Michael Thompson, ticks off 7 qualities he’s picked up from the confident people who have been a part of his life.  I was nodding in agreement as I read.

Finding joy in others success, and celebrating it with friends and family, is so important – both to your friend [duh!], and to your well-being as well.  The act of celebrating is empowering – doing so makes you, your friends, and family happier and stronger.  

As Michael quoted in his piece from Kareem Abdul Jabbar, truly confident people just want “to play the game well and go home”.  In the wedding industry, trend spotting and trend-following are omnipresent, so Kareem’s notion of not requiring other people’s approval really resonates with me, which connects me to my third inspirational piece, on…

 The 17 Hottest Wedding Trends for 2017

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Articles pertaining to trends in this industry are  e v e r y w h e r e, and not surprisingly  often repeat the same tedious do’s and dont’s of the season. David and I believe strongly in helping you create a ceremony, a reception, or a party that feels authentic to you. We believe that just because some look, color or theme is trending does not mean it is worthy of following or repeating. However, we don’t live under a rock. We do like, and need to have, an awareness of what is going on in this industry to be able to keep our store fresh and relevant.  I think this article does a good job of providing an overview without gushing or selling you on any particular view.  Most importantly for me – these trends are not a surprise, and I am realizing David and I are getting quite adept at hand-selecting items that are well made, a good value, and will be interesting to our customers.  Woo hoo!

Here’s to confidence in all you — and we — do. 

Let’s aim high and do this.

Weddings & Receptions

Wedding Photos and Our Wedding Album – Advice from a Groom

 

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Wedding photos have [finally] arrived!  Now that bills are paid (ugh) and thank-you’s are mostly written (I know, I’m sorry) we must decide on whether and how to create a wedding photo album.

The “whether to” decision is an easy one for us – Yes.

Digitals are great, but digital images are never going to be discovered by your children or grandchildren in the attic.  You will never just happen upon your digital images while sorting through a stack of books left untouched for too long. There is nothing special and almost no intimacy involved in gathering around a device to stare at images that are too small to appreciate.  Wedding photos are best experienced as part of a narrative — a story that unfolds in a deliberate sequence with one image building upon and informing those before, after and around it.

So as David and I review our images, reflect on the day, and decide how we may want to remember the moments, the wedding album creation & production decision looms — influenced by budget, creative energy, available time, and technological know-how.

I’ve summarized our wedding album website alternatives into 3 price brackets.  All of these websites have beautiful wedding album examples to get your creative juices going.  Disappointingly, however, none have a same-sex couple prominently displayed in their gallery. Time for some new images everyone.

$$$$ – Custom design/print/bind service.  We select the basic layout and the cover, upload the images, provide suggestions for any copy we may want to include with particular images or on certain pages and then let someone else create and print.  Cost:  Wide range based on number of pages and cover type, but $600 to $1700 covers most of the options available.  Yikes.

Two companies we are considering: blendedmotion.net & storybookpages.com

Blended Motion is a turnkey provider, whereas Storybook Pages focuses on the design component and then allows you to select the print/bind vendor from a list of companies they work with.  Both of these companies work primarily with wedding photographers, but they have expanded their service to “retail” as well.

$$1/2 – DIY design using templates/print/bind service.  We select from a wide range of pre-formatted designs, most with some customization available, upload the images in the size and position and order we want, then let them produce based on the paper and cover we select. Cost:  $200’ish to $750 covers most options available.

This is a more competitive market space, and there are a number of companies.  Each of these 3 are worth considering – each with “a look” and particular software & production strengths.

  • Milk wedding focused, minimalist look, basic options, not a budget buster, quality product
  • Blurb oriented to commercial / professional productions, wedding albums as a side business, flexible design system with default templates for the novice
  • AdoramapixTemplate based with plenty of design flexibility, widest price range based on paper type, page count and cover material

Note:  We are not considering BrideBox. Why? There was no “bride” in our wedding.  Might be a clever sounding name, but it’s not very welcoming to my husband and me.

$ – DIY design using templates/print/bind service.  The primary difference between this price point and the category preceding is that these two providers are not providing a wedding specific product.  Their design flexibility is more limited and their production options far more limited. Their product, however, is considered high quality with very fast turnaround. Cost:  $100 and under

  • Apple Photo book we are an Apple family.  I was a reluctant convert, but have come to fully embrace (accept) the Apple way of life.  We have used this service before to make albums of family events and the results have been beautiful.
  • Snapfish & Shutterfly excellent for the novice/non-tech user, low cost, high quality, very limited design flexibility, quick turnaround.  You don’t have to own an Apple.

We are going to go-down-the-middle and use Adoramapix.  We will share the end result when we’ve got it to show.  For us, it’s a good balance of cost, time spent and design flexibility.

Whatever you decide:

Don’t overspend/overthink. Better to get your favorite photos printed in a scaled down book than have no book at all.

Do not let too much time pass.  Your wedding album project will get lost in the “to-do’s” forever…and the story you wanted your wedding photos to tell won’t be telling any stories at all.

Gifts · The Street

If It’s Good Enough For Mildred

 

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Source:  Live 5 News| live5news.com | Harve Jacobs, Reporter

This is not another wedding planning checklist or must-have color palette recommendation.  I am not going to try to subconsciously guilt or shame you into some expensive wedding favor or table top decision.  Nope.  Just hoping to put a smile on your face in case you missed this, and spend a minute or two connecting the dots between Mildred, Taylor Street and me.

Mildred Bowers likes beer.  A lot.  To celebrate her 103rd birthday coming August 31, NBC interviewed her about her daily pint.  When it’s 4PM in South Carolina where you live, raise your glass to Millie, who drinks a pint at the same time every day.

So what’s the connection to Taylor Street — David’s and my journey into the wedding industry — and Mildred?  

First the obvious product tie-in.  We sell a whole bunch of beer and barware items.  Personalized, theme-y, formal or country-chic, we have a stein, growler, flight, flask or glass for you to buy and drink with her in style.  

The second reason has nothing to do with our products or Mildred’s beer habit.  It’s about our message.  When asked if everyone should adopt her daily beer ritual, she said,

“Yes, if they like it.  Look, there are people who don’t like
coffee and people who don’t like tea, but I want everyone
to drink what they like”.

She is reminding us that it is not “the thing” but the enjoyment “the thing” creates that is important.  We all do not need the same things to experience the same joy.

The pressure to embrace, to strive — and ultimately — to spend is apparent in much of the wedding industry today.  Even counter-culture bridal and “real wedding” sites often nurture a sense of needing to one-up their most recent couple’s performance piece or chase the hottest new trend.

I believe Mildred would encourage us all to stress less and enjoy our weddings, our family and our friends more.  

Taylor Street is about encouraging you to celebrate as you are.  Our perspective is definitely more Sheryl Crow — “It’s not having what you want, it’s wanting what you’ve got.”  

Sure, we like pretty stuff, cool stuff, well made stuff too.  We just want to offer it in a way that doesn’t make you feel inadequate about your {you can fill in the blank here – budget, sexual orientation, wedding theme, party favor, etc}.

Let’s have some fun!  To Mildred!